Closing The Cycle – Inspirational Quotations

 

image from beauty of the arts.
image from beauty of the arts.

Every friendship is different, and every end is thus unique. But how do we know when to say goodbye? And does that goodbye need to be accompanied with ensuing “breakup” drama? It must be said, though, there’s different types of friendships. And each type of relationship — from beginning to end — gets its own degree of life cycle experience.  ~ Eve

 


“Closing The Cycle

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through. Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?

You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away. That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.” Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.”
― Paulo Coelho

 


Something light to end on and so sweet!

Friendship – you can count on me, like one two three!

 

 

 

22 thoughts on “Closing The Cycle – Inspirational Quotations

  1. Wonderful. You’re right, we can’t straddle both past and present. And I’ve written on the cycles. God runs the universe in cycles. The female body does. We know what is right and how we ought to respond when we tune in. Wise. =)

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  2. Thank you for this important post Eve. There is always a time of transition between letting go and ending a cycle completely and embracing the next chapter. It is the flow of human nature, yet we struggle when we have been touched by others and counted on them. May every sunrise bring light and insight.
    Val x

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    1. the next post, the one before? it is there. i think there are 12 comments on the other post. you can see the comments with comment number at the bottom of the post.thanks eve

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  3. Reblogged this on 20 Lines A Day and commented:

    Closing the Cycle – Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.” Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

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  4. Thank you Eve. You have no idea how relevant that is at the moment. And in it’s purpose, the synchronicity is reinforcing my new journey. Time to let go, the cycle has finished…and I need to move on…as do they. Namaste

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    1. Odd Mark, I was thinking of you right now.. I have not seen your blog on word press for a long, long time. I heard about your bad back, so hoping you are improving.. 🙂 ❤

      BtW, what is happening on word press? Everything seems awfully quiet. No awards, no what i call "hummppp!" – What's happened to all the excitement of last year?? Have you any clues? The only news I have heard is sad news, they are introducing a two speed internet. I think this will mean social media will be in the slow lane. What next!!! – End of cycle?? – fondly eve

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      1. Yes, I think an end of a cycle. We all progress within ourselves and seek further meaning, not that it cannot be obtained here as there is a rainbow of beauty on these many pages, but a time of sitting under a tree and digesting what has gone in this last cycle. It was quite strong (for me personally anyway), and a time of meditation and guidance has it’s place to bring understanding and the adjustment that awareness brings.
        My physical pain and the emotional time that I’m going through is a by product of that change and I’m gradually healing and beginning to look out again. We tend to look inward at these times and it isn’t until we deal with them that a ‘hatching’ takes place and we integrate the new into who we are.
        Thank you very much for your care of thinking about me, graciously accepted, and I hope you are in good health and spirits also. And don’t worry, I may have been quiet but I always look forward to your photo’s and post’s. Even though it may be unobserved to you, they still give to those that have need, Thank’s Eve. Namaste

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  5. A really cute commentary – on friendship ! Love the song too . Pity more people don’t reblog this post as it is a worthy message for this day and age.

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    1. thanks Jim.. Yes I like this piece too – the you tube is sort of cute eh? – No, not many reblogs so far. Hope someone will soon. I don’t know what is happening on word press as a whole. I don’t see many of the blogs i used to follow on the reader anymore. I wonder if people are giving up on blogging? – Perhaps summer time is not the best time for blogs???? eve

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