It’s Only One! – Love And Friendship


“A soulmate is an ongoing connection with another individual that the soul picks up again in various times and places over lifetimes. We are attracted to another person at a soul level not because that person is our unique complement, but because by being with that individual, we are somehow provided with an impetus to become whole ourselves.” ~ Edgar Cayce

I would love to add something of my own to the above quotation but I cannot think of anything appropriate. I will leave you to read the rest of the post, and ponder on “the whys and wherefores.” Eve

Excerpted from a talk given by Ram Dass in 2012

Question: The problem seems to be that when you are in a relationship, in the beginning everything is happening, but when you marry that person it changes. I’ve been in several relationships, major relationships, I’ve been married and divorced twice and I’m searching for something special. Something I’m told is called a “soul mate”. Do you believe in such a relationship or person and what would that mean? How would I know that?

Ram Dass:
Got it! Keep looking! I’ll give you the farthest out answer first of all and then we’ll come back to something that everybody can handle. In the farthest out answer, we have all been around so many times that every one of us has been everything with everybody else. So when I look at you, you and I have been in so many relationships together. It’s just that we don’t remember them. Do you know how many times we have been born and died? Remember Buddha’s story: If you take a mountain six miles long and six miles wide and six miles high, that’s the distance a bullock walks in a day. And a bird flies over the mountain once every hundred years with a silk scarf in its beak and brushes the tip of the mountain. In the length of time it takes the scarf to wear away the mountain, that’s how long you have been doing this. Just think about that. Once every hundred years the scarf goes over; a scarf and a mountain. It goes on and on and on. In India there are Yugas and Kalpas of hundreds of thousands of years and then they start the cycles all over again. And we’ve been through all of them again and again.Now, behind all of this is the One. And that is all there is. All of us here are one in drag, appearing to be many. So we are all “soul mate”. There is only one of it. It’s not mates, because it’s not even two. It’s only one. There’s only one of us. So what you’re really doing is constantly marrying yourself at the deepest level of God marrying God. Now you come down into soul. And each soul has a unique karmic predicament (you could call it a psychic DNA code) that in a way guides which way its life will go. And it is entirely possible that souls when they take birth into parents that are part of their Karma will at some point meet a being and they have agreed in advance to come down and do this together and meet. And that’s what we usually call soul mates.What you have found from your past marriages is that what you are attracted to in a person isn’t what you ultimately live with. After the honeymoon is over — it’s after the desire systems that were dormant in the relationship that have the attraction in it pass and all of it passes — then you are left with the work to do. And it’s the same work. When you trade in one partner for another, you still have the same work.

8 thoughts on “It’s Only One! – Love And Friendship

  1. Is it that we are all slices of a single pie, like a wheel in the sky – that keeps on turning? I believe in soul mates, haven’t met her yet, but have shared karmatic love, and I do have a soul group.


  2. We all have more then one soulmate in our live. They will be male and female. We will love them in the moment they walk with us, but surely we will always feel them in our heart whenever we need them at our side.


  3. You got me thinking Eve! Thank you 🙂
    I experience a deep soul connection with many people as I go through life … and feel a connection to others around me as fellow human beings.
    Its my experience and belief that when we choose a special romantic partner, then it is because we have inner work to do in relationship to them… and possibly old wounds to heal.
    Val x


    1. I must say honestly Val. I have met very few people who I felt I had known before.. I did meet someone a few years back who just filled my heart – a mutual attraction that lasted a long time, but other than the feeling, we never actually met enough to be friends.. Now how’s that for an experience? I felt too, with this person, there was unresolved issues, that now still remain unresolved. Oh well!


  4. Love this and so true. I often say to people that Hollywood has screwed up our idea of soul mate. We have many soul mates and they can be just about anyone whose connection with them opens up doors within us and in them. To distill it all down to only romance is such a mistake. It closes us off from encounters that could be truly powerful.


    1. there are some very odd links for soul-mates on the www, and I certainly did not want to write about sexual love, or concern myself with on-line dating agencies. (Everyone is on the game, I guess.) This post was to clarify the real meaning of soul mates, in the light of a true spiritual experience. Thanks so much for your comment. Eve

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