Good Or Bad, Ignored Or Rejected – Love And Friendship

 

 

 

This little piece of written wisdom was sent to me this morning.  Odd that it was sent today, as if some invisible Messenger was offering me some good advice. Perhaps synchronicity or rather serendipity was at work here, because this piece so fitted the moment. I had just been in a blaming game with someone close to me and I didn’t feel good about it. I don’t know why we play those same old life-games of “blaming” over and over again, knowing full well it benefits no one. Anyway, in posting this on, it provides a poignant reminder that the sun does shine, even when we close our eyes and cannot see the rays that  shine down on us. Eve

 

 

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 Of course, to live in the world we have to wear clothes and have an identity in order to make our way. But it makes a difference when we can show our heart’s face without any covering. Though we can’t stay this naked, we’re sanctified in such moments to have the ancient air touch our soul. Alex encountered the authority of his own being and the authority of all being on the side of that mountain.

 This inner quality of authority invokes the touchstone of certainty by which we know first-hand that we’re alive. Our inner authority emanates from the nakedness of our soul. Once we remove our masks and opinions, our authority of being resides in whatever point of stillness we can no longer question. Our authority of being resides in the fact of being here, regardless of what circumstance surrounds us, regardless of what we have to put back on to live in the world.

Our awareness of our depth of being is fleeting. Yet just because we close our eyes doesn’t mean the sun has disappeared. And just because we can’t keep the unquestionable fact of being alive in view doesn’t mean that the inherent vitality of life has disappeared. We are more than what happens to us. We are more than what we think or fear. The turbulence we encounter is very real, but underneath what happens to us is the inherent, unwavering fact of life filling us from within.

Under all the tension to belong and fit in, under all the psychological weather, there is a place of stillness that is immune to our submitting and resisting. When we can put down all our reasons and excuses, it’s from this inner plateau of being that we begin to experience life directly again. This sense of utter being doesn’t come from willfulness or determination. It comes when the bottom of our personality nakedly touches the common center of all life. When life-force enters us directly and moves through us completely, our authority of being can’t be denied.

In discovering your own authority of being, you may want to spend time with the great poem SONG OF MYSELF by Walt Whitman. I urge you to read it slowly, and to be in conversation with the places it awakens in you.

And the next time you’re told you’re good or bad, the next time you’re ignored or rejected, I encourage you to practice your inner resolve; not by criticizing yourself or finding yourself wanting, but by climbing to that place in you that is immune to both submitting and resisting, that place of unquestioned certainty about the fact of life, which Walt Whitman confirms in SONG OF MYSELF when he says:

 

I do not trouble my spirit
to vindicate itself
or be understood;

I see that the elementary
laws never apologize.

I exist as I am—that is enough;

If no other in the world
be aware, I sit content;

And if each and all be aware,
I sit content.

Beyond all vindication and blame, the fundamental truth of our existence—the bare fact of our being—can outlast our doing.

Once we remove our masks
and opinions, our

authority of being resides
in whatever point

of stillness we can no
longer question.


Mark Nepo – From an article in Parabola Mag. issue 41

Evil & Good Selfishness – Sri Yogananda

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During the past 4 weeks we have watched Greece battle with the IMF, The German and French Banks, the politicians and finance ministers for a better deal. They have not succeeded. Even with their brave determination at a solid “No” vote in last Sunday’s referendum, they still look like they will be worse off than before.  And no matter what we might think of Greece,  as being irresponsible, the ordinary people who probably were never in a position to be other than what they are today, continue to suffer horrendously, under austerity measures that are ruining expectations in Europe for any reasonable recovery.  Banks, it seems, can be bailed out. People can’t.  Greed has given way to a new lower goal that beggars belief.  It’s called Evil  Selfishness.


Sri Yogananda, wrote often about human greed. He called it Evil Selfishness. This is how he describes it.

Evil selfishness is that which actuates a man to seek his own comfort by destroying the comforts of others. To be rich at the cost of another’s loss is ignorance, and is against the interests of the higher individual Self of the persons who engages in such selfishness. To delight in hurting others’ feelings by carping criticism is also evil selfishness. Evil Selfishness carries a huge karmic debt, that has to be paid back. (Bankers included.) 🙂

True and good selfishness motivates a man to seek his own comfort, prosperity, and happiness by also making others more prosperous and happy. Evil selfishness hides its many destructive teeth of inevitable suffering beneath the apparently innocent looks of temporary comfort-assurances. Evil selfishness encloses one in a small circle and shuts out the rest of humanity. Good selfishness takes everybody along with one’s own self into the circle of brotherhood. Good selfishness brings many harvests – return services from others, self-expansion, divine  sympathy, lasting happiness, and Self-realization.

To avoid the pitfalls of evil selfishness, one should first follow and establish himself in the pattern of good selfishness, wherein one thinks of his family and those whom he serves as part of himself. From that attainment, one can then advance to a practice of Sacred selfishness, or unselfishness in which one sees all the universe as himself.”

Now is this black and white to you? 🙂

The Good Neighbour – Love And Friendship

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The Guardian Of The Night – Source: Beauty Of The Arts

 

What’s the most real-life scary story you have posted on a blog? I’ve had several that I certainly would not wish to share, but this one is worth sharing. At least, I feel it is.  I call it my ‘Guardian Angel’ story. So here goes. 🙂


The phone rang in the kitchen just as I was about to go out. The aerobics class was at eight p.m. and I hated being late. Should I let the phone just ring? Whoever it was could call back later. It was getting dark outside, dang! I hated driving at night on route Seven.We lived in Reston, Virginia at that time. I was in my early thirties.

I rushed over to pick up the phone and said a rather impatient ‘hello’? A lady’s voice at the other end, one I didn’t know, answered :

“So sorry to bother you. You don’t know me but I know you. I was able to get your number from the phone exchange. I hope you don’t mind my doing this but I am concerned about you.”

I was stunned by her message as our telephone number was ex-directory. What did she mean by concerned? And why hadn’t the phone exchange alerted me before giving out my number ? I thought they would have asked permission.
With a seriously shaky  voice, she said, “ There is a rapist in the area, do you know?”

"Night Fairies: by: Hans Zatzka
“Night Fairies:
by: Hans Zatzka – source: Beauty Of the Arts

I didn’t of course. I rarely read the newspapers. Our only direct neighbors were out all hours and we rarely saw them. Feeling awkward she continued on :

“I know you go out about this time, I have seen you from my kitchen window. I live just down from you, facing on to the parking area. I am just calling to say don’t go out tonight. There is a guy in the area whose been raping women. He’s attacked three women so far.”

Stunned by what she said, I asked for more details. She didn’t have many to share other than to be very careful. I thanked her very much for caring. That night, I stayed home. Still, the thought of a rapist being around, was somewhat disturbing. I couldn’t sleep well.  Luckily for us, our house had been sold recently so, we would be moving out in a week or two.

We’d sold the house to an investor, who had, in turn, rented the house to two young women in their twenties. They came around to visit a few days after the sale went through. I gave them a house inspection and, remembering the rape, I warned them to be very careful not to take any chances.

The day we moved out, I wrote them both a note, advising them to make sure the locking ‘Charlie bars’ were always closed on the patio window. We’d had them installed a long time ago. They had done a great job to secure the back of the house. I popped the note into a kitchen drawer, where they would find it. We moved out and thought no more about our old house, until I met a former neighbour who said:

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“Have you read the newspaper?” I said I didn’t often read newspapers. “Your house made front page! A guy broke in the other night and raped a young woman. She’d only just got home. He was inside waiting for her. Poor girl, she nearly died!”


My heart skipped a beat. How had this man managed to get inside? I’d given the girls instructions to keep the house safe. What could have happened? Later, I learned they had forgotten to close the Charlie bars on the patio window. He’d forced the patio doors open.

It could have been me who had been the victim. How close had I come to being attacked by this villain? The thought made me shudder.

I often wondered about the neighbour who called me that night so long ago. I never met her. I still ponder on how she’d got my number without my consent. Of course, I am grateful she did. Had she been a guardian angel sent to warn me? I’ll never know. I will never forget her or her thoughtfulness.

just to finish, I would like to add, I still feel so sorry for the young women who was raped. I tried to be a guide to her by leaving a message in the kitchen drawer, also alerting her to the fact, I wish she’d had taken the messages to heart, for she didn’t deserve to suffer that way. No, not at all. Eve

The Dream Of The Planet, Don Miguel Ruiz – Video

 

A brief post from the Masterful Don Miguel Ruiz, called the “Dream Of The Planet” –  a follow-on from my last post  “Every Human Is An Artist,” (Prayers – A Communion With Our Creator) blogged  from a month ago, and  posted on June 22, 2014 . I hope some of you will remember it...

I thought I’d offer another excerpt from “Prayers – A Communion With Our Creator“, as this little book is just crammed full of gems of wisdom and other truths. All prayer is a communion of the human with the divine. Whether prayers are offered in love or gratitude and inspiration, or from fear, despair, or desperation, we talk heart-to-heart with divine spirit. When we don’t pray, and I must say, I don’t pray as often as I used to, we feel more alone, cut off from our own hearts, and our own power. When I don’t pray, I write posts like this, because positive writing is a prayer, it is an agreement between the heart and the divine, an investment in faith, and helps foster the intent.

 

~ Thank you, eve


“Together with my new post is kwisital,s eye-catching you tube, “AWAKENING INTO INFINITE LOVE AND LIGHT.”  Kwisital is a French guy with a deft hand with both music and film, he creates pretty amazing you tubes often using English quotations. I love his imagery and his creativity, use of color and sound. I hope you will take two or three minutes to watch his you tube.

 


The dream of the planet is the dream of all humans together. We can call it society, we can call it a nation, but the result of the creation of the mind, individual and collective, is a dream. The dream can be a pleasant dream that we call heaven or it can be a nightmare, that we call hell. But heaven and hell only exist at the level of the mind.

The human society, the dream of the planet is ruled by lies, and fear is the result. It is a dream where humans judge one another, find one another guilty, and punish one another. Humans use the power of the word to gossip and to hurt one another. Misuse of the word creates emotional poison, and all the emotional poison is in the dream. It goes around the world, and that is what most humans eat:  “emotional poison.”  The dream of the planet prepares newborn humans to believe what it wants them to believe. In that dream, there is no justice; there is only injustice. Nothing is perfect; there is only imperfection. That is why humans eternally search for justice, for happiness, and for love.

For thousands of years people have believe there is a conflict between good and evil in the universe. But this is not true. The real conflicts is between truth and what is not truth. The conflict exists in the human mind, not in the rest of nature. Good and evil are the result of that conflict. Believing in truth results in goodness; believing in and defending what is not truth results in evil. Evil is just the result of believing in lies.

Good Friend – Metta Teachings

photo taken this afternoon on the bank of a river, in Port de Carhaix

“Always set high value on spontaneous kindness. He whose inclination prompts him to cultivate your friendship of his own accord will love you more than one whom you have been at pains to attach to you.”

– Samuel Johnson

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Friendship is a blessing, and a friend is the channel through whom great emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even physical blessings flow. Friends can cheer us when we’re sorrowful or depressed. Friends can challenge us when we allow ourselves to get beyond our reasonable boundaries. Friends can motivate us when we’re ready to give in, and they can provide for us when life falls apart. They are there when all is well, and we want someone with whom to share life’s pleasant and memorable moments. We often just want them around to have a good time, to laugh, to act silly, to enjoy some mutually liked activity. In how many ways have friends enriched our lives and made us feel loved, accepted, respected and cared for? Probably, too many to list, and the list grows daily.

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The Buddha often emphasized the characteristics of a good friend. He spoke about a good friend as one who gives a kind of happiness based on knowing our interconnectedness, and that learning to be a friend to ourselves and being one to others is really the same thing.

Here are wise words about friendship from the Buddha; what better time to read them than at this very  moment.

He spoke about a good friend, or a true friend, as being someone who is a helper, who will protect us when we are taken unawares, when we are surprised by life in some way. This person will be a refuge to us when we afraid. He spoke about a good friend as someone who is constant in our time of happiness and in our times of adversity or sorrow, someone who will not forsake us when we’re in trouble. And as someone who will tell us their secrets and will not betray our secrets to others, and at the same time will be completely honest with us and warn us if they think we are heading off towards danger.

When we have such a friend we have a gift beyond measure.

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Laughter Is Good For You – Metta Teachings

Laughter, joy and happiness is healthy for you. They say laughter is the best medicine. It can cure illness and extends life.  A good laugh boosts the immune system, relieves depression and stress, relaxes all the body’s muscles, is good exercise for the heart and helps prevent heart attacks, it cleanses the lungs, and provides an overall sense of well being.

We don’t need to wait for someone else to bring us happiness – happiness is a choice we can make at any time we want.  You can choose to look on the good side of things and take life more lightly, or you can choose to think gloomy and sad.  It’s up to you. Life is the movie you see through your own eyes – it’s up to you how you take it.


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In Plum Village, we laugh all day long, yet not one of us has a private bank account.  There is a belief that unless you have a lot of money, unless you hold a high position in society, you cannot be truly happy. It is hard to let go of that belief until you see the truth that happiness is possible in another way. Seeing that will make the future possible for our children. So I think in Buddhist circles we have to reorganize so that we can show people a way of living happily based on mutual understanding, not materialism. Just a dharma talk isn’t enough, because a dharma talk is just a talk. Only when people see such an unmaterialistic community, when they see such a way of life, will they be convinced.

~Thich Nhat Hanh


Romanic Paris has its own culture of joy and this street sculpture is no exception..

Greet everyone you meet with a warm smile.
No matter how busy you are,
don’t rush enounters with co-workers, family and friends.
Speak softly. Listen attentively.
Act as if every conversation you have
is the most important thing on your mind today.
Look your children and your partner in the eyes when they talk to you.
Stroke the cat, caress the dog.
Lavish love on every living being you meet.
See how different you feel at the end of the day. ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach

(from ‘Simple Abundance : A Daybook of Comfort and Joy’) ~


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Look to this day, for it is life, the very life of life.
In its brief course lie all the realities and verities of existence.
The bliss of growth, the splendor of action, the glory of power.
And yesterday is but a dream, and tomorrow is only a vision.
But today – well lived – makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, and every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well, therefore, to this day.

~ Sanskrit proverb ~



The Good and Evil Man Does, Sri Yogananda Speaks – Yogananda

Photo Source: National Geographic

The good and Evil Actions Of Man Affect the Harmonious Balance Of The Earth.

  Excerpted from The Divine Romance – Sri. Yogananda

“God has given man the power of destruction as well as the power of creation. We have made the world beautiful, and we have the power to destroy it. When we desecrate the world, the environment undergoes a violent change, which is called partial dissolution. Such upheavals have occurred many times, one example is Noah’s flood. These partial dissolutions are due to the wrong actions and ignorant errors of mankind. Don’t think “the happenings” of this world are going on automatically without God’s knowledge. And don’t think that man’s actions have no effect on the operation of His cosmic laws. Everything that has happened throughout the ages is recorded in the ether. The vibrations of evil that mankind leaves in the ether upset the normal harmonious balance of the earth. When the earth becomes very heavy with disease and evil, these etheric disturbances cause the world to give way to earthquakes, floods, and other natural disasters.”

It is the same as when you live wrongly for a long time; various in harmonies begin to manifest in your body, as well as certain diseases. Disease is not a punishment. It is a poison that you yourself create in the body, and the Divine wants you to get rid of it. But all too often, by the time you try to throw it off, the body has become completely deranged, and you die. So, just like the human body, the earth suffers from inharmonious disturbances and disease. And it is because the combined actions of the people all over the world affect the planet on which we live. There is no question about it. The good and bad karmic conditions created by man determine and influence the climate;  they affect the wind and the ocean, even the very structure of the earth,  sometimes causing earthquakes. All the hatred, the anger, the evil we send out into the world, and the agony and rebellion they  cause, all these are disturbing the magnetic force of the earth, like static in the ether.  


In a profound sense every man has two halves to his being; he is not one person so much as two persons trying to act in unison.  I believe that in the heart of each human being there is something which I can only describe as a “child of darkness” who is equal and complementary to the more obvious “child of light.”  ~Laurens van der Post


But the beginning of things, of a world especially, is necessarily  vague, chaotic, and exceedingly disturbing. How few of us ever emerge from such beginning! How many souls perish in its tumult! – Kate Chopin

A Good Seat this Afternoon – Sathya Sai Memories


Swami often use to say ‘love my uncertainty.’  On this very subject, the following incident took place on one rainy Kodaikanal afternoon during the mid 1990’s. 

Swami often told devotees not to ask for interviews  but to have a ‘heart to heart’ with him. What does Swami mean by a “heart to heart?” In my experiences, over many years,  my  guidance from Sai Baba always came from within.  Sai guidance is given   “one to one,”  or “heart to heart,”  what I  call a personal teaching. Lessons from Sai Baba were many and varied, each devotee had their own special lessons. Each lesson tailor-made to suit the person receiving it.  Here is one of mine I don’t mind sharing.

I can remember the afternoon well. It was one of the dull afternoons that seem to be part of the Kodaikanal adventure. I was sitting near the lake away from the dusty road, although I’d left my darshan cushion on the street where the token lines were forming.  While sitting there on the damp grass, quietly looking at the small boats sailing on the lake,  I heard the following words come up from inside.     

‘Good seat this afternoon’ – these few words came from  somewhere in my  heart, as if my heart was talking to me.  I remained mystified as to what it meant!  I sat watching the sun rays dancing on the cool, calm lake where I sat at the time and pondered about those four little words. I hadn’t imagined them, although I was mystified to where the words had come from. I had not told myself “Good seat this afternoon.” At the time, the chance of a good seat for bhajans in the small Kodaikanal hall was extremely unlikely.

The Bhajan Hall at Kodaikanal was so small that it really could only accommodate the VIPs, and  there were many ladies waiting in the general public lines – all hoping for a place inside. I knew from previous afternoons that only the first two or three token lines would be allowed to enter the hall, with only outside places left for the rest of us. Perhaps, I thought, Swami was giving me some sort of guidance that I would have ‘line one’ that afternoon. With this positive thought firmly established in my mind, I continued to gaze at the lake and took little notice of the crowd gathering on the road.

At about 3.30 p.m., the tokens numbers had been drawn and the rows/lines made ready to enter Swami’s garden. It was time for me to rejoin my line to find out our number; a time to test my inner guidance.

I found out that our token number was six! Well, I mused, I must have been wrong. There was no way line six would be able to enter the bhajan hall. Row six would be seated outside!

Bitterly disillusioned by what seemed to me as some sort of   ‘false’ inner guidance, or wishful thinking on my part, I decided to returned to my hotel room. I told myself that, in future, I wouldn’t listen to ANY INNER GUIDANCE AGAIN,   no matter how clear or true it might seem at the time.

I slowly strolled along the gathered lines of ladies when token number one ladies came up from behind, ready to enter the  ashram garden. A friend in that “precious row” noticed me walking away from the darshan area ,  and she called over,  “where are you going? “I told her that my token had been six so obviously there was no way I could enter the hall that afternoon. I had decided to return to my hotel room. She understood my disappointment and suggested I join her in her number one row. I explained that I didn’t want to join her line because I felt it was cheating.

When I reached the small ashram gate, I noticed one of the seva dal ladies whom I knew well. Perhaps I should ask her for a good place inside. At least I would give it a go. I had nothing to lose.  I nervously approached her and expressed my disappointment at having been outside most days, pleading my bad luck in drawing large token numbers. But she wasn’t at all sympathetic, and flatly refused my wish for a seat in the hall.

Several of the V.I.P’s ladies suggested that I take their place, but the seva dal wouldn’t hear of it. Disappointed, once more, I turned to leave, when another friend spotted me and asked why I was speaking to the seva dal. I briefly explained my ordeal to her. She insisted that I stand behind her in line four which wasn’t likely to enter the hall either, but, at least, I would have good company for the afternoon.  The seva dal agreed that I could join line 4.

When our turn came to enter the  garden compound, we were instructed to move to the bhajan hall as there were just a few spaces at the  very back. I managed to find a tiny space up against the back wall of the hall, where it would be difficult to see Swami, still better than being outside. By now it was raining quite hard.

Determined to make the most of the afternoon, I sat quietly waiting for the bhajan to begin. Then to my utter surprise Rani, the chief seva dal serving  at Kodaikanal, strolled down to where we were sitting.  She beckoned to two ladies seated in front of me to move to the front where they were given a seating position near to Swami’s chair.

‘How blessed,’ I thought, as they sat down almost under Swami’s chair.  Then to my complete astonishment, Rani walked back down the hall again, spotted me, and beckoned, saying,

“I have one more place at the front. Come.”

With a grateful heart, I followed Rani to the front where I was seated near the carpet’s edge, very near to Swami’s chair.

When Swami  entered the hall that afternoon, he turned towards  me with an expression of mock surprise. Here I was sitting just a few yards from him. The inner guidance had been true after all!  (What a wonderful afternoon bhajan that turned out to be, despite the obstacles. )